Treat Your Friends Like Jesus Treats You (Even When They Mess Up)

Have you ever been in a position with one of your really great friends, and you’re just like “Did they really just do that?” or “Did they really just say that?” 

Sometimes, people’s actions, words, feelings, etc. just shock us so hard and sometimes, it can really upset us. You think that this person was a close friend, someone you trusted so much, but then they go and hurt you. This leaves you so tempted to stay high-key salty with them or get revenge.

But just because it’s what you want to do, doesn’t mean it’s what you should do.

Let’s look at Peter. Peter was best friends with Jesus. He looked up to Jesus, loved Him, and trusted Him so much. He wanted to follow Him for the rest of his life. But Peter messed up, and he denied who Jesus was, aka his best friend. He straight up told people that he didn’t know who Jesus was.

Peter swore, “A curse on me if I’m lying—I don’t know this man you’re talking about!” And immediately the rooster crowed the second time. Suddenly, Jesus’ words flashed through Peter’s mind: “Before the rooster crows twice, you will deny three times that you even know me.” And he broke down and wept. – Mark 14:71-72

Ouch. How would you feel if your best friend denied knowing you in a public place? I would be pretty hurt. Jesus was hurt, but He still died for Peter. Just like how He died for us even after we sin so many times. Jesus is hurt that we sin, but Jesus KNOWS us, and He understands that we are humans. He understands that we aren’t perfect. We are going to mess up, and we are going to make mistakes.

So yes, when your friend betrays you, it’s hard not to want to yell at them. It’s hard not to want to slap them across the face and get upset at them. But treat them like Jesus treats us. Know that they aren’t perfect. They mess up just like you do. Love them when they mess up. Comfort them. Forgive them.

Love always,

Claire

#treatyourselfcauseitsalmosthalloween

 

How To Resolve Conflict The Right Way

Let’s be honest. Drama is not fun. No matter how much you like it or hate it, it’s one of those things that is just not needed in life (unless it’s on TV). I always hated drama, being involved in it or seeing others involved in their own drama. When drama starts, people turn ugly real fast, but we have to realize how to handle conflict the way Jesus would.

A) Don’t get jealous too fast- Most of the time when drama starts, it’s probably because one person is jealous of the other person. We are all human. We are going to get jealous at some points; I’m not saying its not gonna happen. But we have to try and not focus on the things that make us jealous in life.

B) We are all different- God made you to be you, not someone else. We all go at our own speeds in life. It’s not a race to see who can achieve the most first. Sometimes, people cannot understand why you do things differently than them. It’s because God made us all differently and our human minds can’t grasp that concept sometimes.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to the Godly person you want to become. That’s a much better goal to strive for. 

C) Pray about the situation– When conflict arises, pray for the person and the fight going on. In most cases, some bad situation is going on in their life, and it really isn’t anything you’re doing wrong. Ask God to show you a way to end the fight. 

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  -Philippians 4:6-7

D) Identify if any of your own weaknesses or sins have contributed to this situation- We have to man up sometimes and accept the blame when we are at fault. Pray for yourself too. Pray for your sins to not get in the way of the conflict and to repent.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.  -Matthew 7:3-5

E) Don’t blame yourself too much- We all make mistakes from time to time. It’s best to acknowledge those mistakes and forgive and forget. Don’t hold on to the mistakes for too long.

F) End it with love- Even if the conflict doesn’t get resolved the way you had hope, end it with love. It’s hard to do sometimes, but it is well worth it.

Love your neighbor as yourself. –Matthew 22:39

I hope these little things help you when you are in a stressful conflict with others. Just remember that you are so loved by the amazing Creator. He forgives you even when you make a mistake. Prayers go out to all that are reading this.

Love always,

Claire