Fruit of the Spirit: SELF-CONTROL

Hi friends! Today we are wrapping up our Fruit of the Spirit blog series with self-control. I am excited to share this blog post with you and even more excited for what is to come in the future 🙂 alrighty, let’s jump in.

WHAT IS SELF-CONTROL:

There is not a very clear definition for the meaning of self-control in the Bible, but in Proverbs 25:28, we are given a picture of what life looks like without self-control.

A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. – Proverbs 25:28

When I think of this verse, I picture this image of people easily coming into a city, offering their opinions of how things should change within the city, and not many people are there to defend it. For us, I think realistically that can look like Satan entering our minds and twisting our emotions for us to act in the way Satan wants us to. Self-control for me is being intentional and mindful about your decisions, your words, and your actions.

GOOD INTENTIONS, BAD DECISIONS:

Growing up, I had this motto (and I still use it), “always do the right thing”. Over the years, I have been able to acknowledge that just because I have good intentions going into a situation does not mean that I am not sinning.

So picture this: I go to school. My friend, Sally Sue, comes up to me. She starts being really mean, calling me a bunch of bad names, and just tears me down. Say this just really upsets me. I go to the bathroom, I’m really emotional, and my friend Alice comes in. She asks what’s going on, is everything okay. In my mind, I’m thinking “okay Claire, tell Alice what’s going on because once you get it off your chest, you’re gonna be able to go back out and love on people and not let this ruin your day”.

So I tell Alice what happened. BUT I talk about the situation with my opinion, my feelings, and my emotions. Technically, this makes me feel better and I can calm down, but by calling Sally Sue rude and mean, I just gossiped about her to a friend. Who then might say what I said to someone else. See where I’m going?

I think in life we can be so focused on what’s in front of us, but forget to check our blind spot. When you’re in a car, if you are only focused on the road in front of you and don’t check your blind spot, you might hit a car when changing lanes. Your intentions were good because you were focusing on the road in front of you, trying to pay attention and not cause a wreck. But you forgot to check the blind spot.

We can have great intentions on making good decisions, but if we don’t check if our decisions are aligning with God’s word, then we can still fall into sin.

All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the spirit. Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established. The Lord has made everything for its purpose, even the wicked for the day of trouble. – Proverbs 16:2-4

The way we see it might look pure to us, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a sin.

LEARN TO USE CONTROL:

For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. – Titus 2:11-14

I think an important reason to study God’s word is to learn wisdom from Him. He wants us to live a holy and upright life. He wants us to understand what breaks His heart. By studying and memorizing scripture, we are able to be equipped with the word and take it with us in life.

Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. – Ephesians 6:17

If you go into a battle without a weapon and say “I don’t need it, I’m gonna win the war without it”, you might lose the war because you weren’t prepared and equipped for the battle. God wants us to use His word as our sword for battle. When Jesus was tempted by Satan in the wilderness, Jesus fought back with scripture. It’s important to take the time to memorize and understand the power of God’s word.

I want to challenge you today by memorizing one of the verses mentioned in this blog post. Remember, self-control is about controlling our desires, our feelings, and our emotions, which can easily be tempted by Satan. I hope this week you are able to look at your blind spot in situations and use God’s word to help you make your decisions.

With love,

Claire

Fruit of the Spirit: FAITHFULNESS

WHAT IS FAITHFULNESS:

Faithfulness means to be full of faith. It is a way in which we can show God our trust, loyalty, and obedience to Him. In Hebrews chapter 11, the author talks much about what faith is and reminds us of many people in the Bible who walked with faith.

Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. For by it the people of old received their commendation. By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible. – Hebrews 11:1-3

We cannot always see how God’s plans are going to come to us or how they will play out. We cannot always see that God is working for us, even when it feels like everything is going wrong. However, by having faith, we can trust and have confidence that God is working all things out for our good. He is trying to teach us, guide us, and fulfill His plans through us.

And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him. By faith Noah, being warned by God concerning events as yet unseen, in reverent fear constructed an ark for the saving of his household. By this he condemned the world and became an heir of the righteousness that comes by faith. – Hebrews 11:6-7

When God told Noah to build an ark because the Lord was going to flood the earth, he did. Even though Noah could not see the future that God had in store, he still trusted and obeyed God. He did exactly what was told of him.

HOW IS GOD FAITHFUL:

I think God is faithful in an abundance of ways to us. A lot of the time, God is faithful to you and others around you in different ways and circumstances. Maybe, you prayed for your purpose to be shown to you, and God fulfilled it and rewarded you with a job. Maybe you dealt with some difficult circumstances in life or got your heartbroken. God might have shown His faithfulness to you by offering you time to heal and giving you friends and family members to help you get through those times.

His faithfulness might be shown to us in different ways, but overall, God is faithful. We all are unified by many faithful actions God has already done as well. A major example is that God was faithful by sending His Son to sacrifice Himself and die so that we may have eternal life with Him.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” – John 3:16-17

The Lord promised that a Messiah would eventually come to save God’s people long ago. Eventually, Jesus was born and shed His blood for our sins, so that we may live and walk with Him. God wanted you to be apart of His kingdom, so He fulfilled that promise He made long ago and made a way for that to happen.

I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. – Galatians 2:20

WALK BY FAITH:

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. – James 1:5-8

I can’t give you one simple and easy answer to the question of how to live by faith. But I can tell you that a life with faith means walking, trusting, obeying, and approaching God with confidence in who He says He is and what He says He will do.

Walking by faith is not just about believing in God though. It says in the book of James that even the demons believed. A life full of faith calls for us to not only believe in God but to live out our lives faithfully, by our actions and our words.

But someone will say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons believe—and shudder! Do you want to be shown, you foolish person, that faith apart from works is useless? Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered up his son Isaac on the altar? You see that faith was active along with his works, and faith was completed by his works; and the Scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness”—and he was called a friend of God. You see that a person is justified by works and not by faith alone. And in the same way was not also Rahab the prostitute justified by works when she received the messengers and sent them out by another way? For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so also faith apart from works is dead. – James 2:18-26

Set your heart and mind on God’s word, His character, and His love. Remind yourself of the moments in your life where God showed His faithfulness to you. Reflect on how Jesus obeyed and walked by faith in His Father. Learn from those in the Bible, like Noah, Abraham, and Rahab, who have each shown us their faith. Allow this to not only let you see God’s promises become fulfilled but also let your mind and heart be reminded that we can walk by faith as well.

With love,

Claire

Fruit of the Spirit: GOODNESS

WHAT IS GOODNESS:

From reading scripture, we can understand what goodness looks like by understanding the character of God. To me, goodness consists of being righteous and holy. And like the other attributes that we have discussed so far in this series, we can learn a lot about goodness from teachings in the Bible.

GOD’S GOODNESS:

The Book of Psalm speaks multiple times about the characteristics of God. It is a long book of the Bible, but I think it is a great way to get a better understanding of the love God’s people have for Him because of His goodness and righteousness. David gives us many verses that are focused on describing God’s character and even in his times of trouble, he still put his trust and comfort in God.

The Lord tests the righteous, but His soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence. Let Him rain coals on the wicked; fire and sulfur and a scorching wind shall be the portion of their cup. For the Lord is righteous; He loves righteous deeds; the upright shall behold His face.” – Psalm 11:5-7

Our God is holy, faithful, and good. He is sovereign and loving through and through. He is just and uses His righteous judgment when needed.

I use to have a difficult time understanding God’s goodness. I had this distorted thinking that God is only good on my good days. You know how you have those days that are just difficult and challenging and nothing seems to be going your way? Or maybe unfortunate events happen with our loved ones and we don’t understand why these tough things are happening?

Even on the hardest of days, God is still good. He is still allowing you to wake up and breathe. He is giving you all the necessities that are required for you to live an abundant life with Him and glorify Him with the purpose He has for you. He is going before you and fighting on your behalf.

God displays His goodness to us, not just by the blessings He gives us but by His righteousness and holiness.

“The Lord will keep you from all evil; He will keep your life. The Lord will keep your going out and your coming in from this time forth and forevermore.” – Psalm 121:7-8

HOW CAN WE DISPLAY GOODNESS:

“As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, ‘You shall be holy, for I am holy’.” – 1 Peter 1:13-16

Because God is holy and good, we can strive for goodness by learning from His teachings and obeying His Word. Along with the ten commandments, there are many rules that God mentions to us on how to live a holy life.

“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” – Ephesians 5:15-17

God hates our sins. If we align our hearts with the Spirit, we can learn to walk in a way of seeking repentance and righteousness. This doesn’t mean we won’t ever sin again. We are human, and we are broken. But, it does mean we can focus our attention on God’s righteousness and walk towards His direction. We can aim to seek His will for our lives and not our desires and wants.

HIS WILL BE DONE:

“And He came out and went, as was His custom, to the Mount of Olives, and the disciples followed Him. And when He came to the place, He said to them, ‘Pray that you may not enter into temptation’. And He withdrew from them about a stone’s throw and knelt down and prayed, saying, ‘Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but Yours be done.” And there appeared to Him an angel from heaven, strengthening Him. And being in agony he prayed more earnestly, and His sweat became like great drops of blood falling down to the ground.” – Luke 22:39-44

When Jesus knew that the time was coming where He would be sacrificed on the cross for our sins, He was in great distress. But, even though Jesus did not want to endure the painful path set before Him, He still wanted God’s will to be done. Jesus displayed His holiness by setting His attention and focus on the Lord’s will.

Jesus teaches us time and time again that God wants our attention and our hearts. He wants us to be seeking Him and His kingdom first and forevermore. We serve a good and holy God, and even when we fall short and do not think we are worthy enough for the goodness He has for us, He still wants us.

“We love because He first loved us.” – 1 John 4:19

With love,

Claire

Fruit of the Spirit: KINDNESS

THE IMPORTANCE OF KINDNESS:

At the beginning of Genesis, God created Adam and Eve. He placed them together in the Garden of Eden so that they could enjoy each other’s company and gain encouragement from each other. God created us not only to live with Him but to enjoy the community with those around us.

I think kindness is an important aspect that we get to carry into the relationships we have with each other. It allows us to encourage and support one another. I think it also allows us to understand the importance of community and relationships with others.

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved. – Acts 2:42-47

In Acts 2, we see a picture of what God has in mind for us when it comes to community and fellowship. When Jesus was on earth, He showed kindness in many ways, but the main one that sticks out to me is how He spent time with others.

He wanted people to enjoy each others’ company, whether that was over dinner or in the church. He also healed those around Him that were hurt because these people needed a Savior.

I also love how these verses talk so much about having glad and sincere hearts. Our hearts are very important to us. Mainly because everything flows from the heart. We have to make sure our hearts are aligned with God and His truth for us to be able to share kindness with the company around us.

ACTS OF KINDNESS:

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. – Galatians 5:13

I think there are over a thousand different ways you can be kind to yourself and those around you. But I want to highlight a few important ones that stand out to me.

  1. Love Languages – If you don’t already know what your love language is, take a love language quiz online to find out! I think it is so important for you to know what your love language is but also what your friends’ love languages are as well. It helps you not only to love them better, but it allows them to feel important and valued in the relationship too.
  2. Prayer – Yep, I consider prayer an act of kindness. Taking the time out of your day to ask your friends how you can be praying for them or praying for friends when you think about them are both great ways to be kind. I think it is also important to pray for a kind heart as well. Just like any other fruit of the spirit, we need to ask God to give us a kind heart and for the Holy Spirit to work inside of us so that we can glorify God through our lives.
  3. Speak Truth – We are called to carry each other’s burdens in life. Jesus was the perfect example of how we can build each other up. I think a great way to do so is to remind friends and family members about the Truth of God’s Word. By reminding those around you of the promises of God, the Holy Spirit can guide us in the ways that we can be kind to one another. Supporting and encouraging each other with God’s Truth is a wonderful way to share kindness.

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. – Ephesians 4:32

God has been so kind to us by sending His Son so that we can have eternal life with Him. We need to be kind to each other as well. If you want to learn more about serving each other with a kind heart, read over the gospels and how Jesus lived His life with those around Him. We get to learn about kindness from the actions and characteristics of the Savior, and through the Holy Spirit, we can share that kindness with others. How incredible.

With love,

Claire