How To Resolve Conflict The Right Way

Let’s be honest. Drama is not fun. No matter how much you like it or hate it, it’s one of those things that is just not needed in life (unless it’s on TV). I always hated drama, being involved in it or seeing others involved in their own drama. When drama starts, people turn ugly real fast, but we have to realize how to handle conflict the way Jesus would.

A) Don’t get jealous too fast- Most of the time when drama starts, it’s probably because one person is jealous of the other person. We are all human. We are going to get jealous at some points; I’m not saying its not gonna happen. But we have to try and not focus on the things that make us jealous in life.

B) We are all different- God made you to be you, not someone else. We all go at our own speeds in life. It’s not a race to see who can achieve the most first. Sometimes, people cannot understand why you do things differently than them. It’s because God made us all differently and our human minds can’t grasp that concept sometimes.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to the Godly person you want to become. That’s a much better goal to strive for. 

C) Pray about the situation– When conflict arises, pray for the person and the fight going on. In most cases, some bad situation is going on in their life, and it really isn’t anything you’re doing wrong. Ask God to show you a way to end the fight. 

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  -Philippians 4:6-7

D) Identify if any of your own weaknesses or sins have contributed to this situation- We have to man up sometimes and accept the blame when we are at fault. Pray for yourself too. Pray for your sins to not get in the way of the conflict and to repent.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.  -Matthew 7:3-5

E) Don’t blame yourself too much- We all make mistakes from time to time. It’s best to acknowledge those mistakes and forgive and forget. Don’t hold on to the mistakes for too long.

F) End it with love- Even if the conflict doesn’t get resolved the way you had hope, end it with love. It’s hard to do sometimes, but it is well worth it.

Love your neighbor as yourself. –Matthew 22:39

I hope these little things help you when you are in a stressful conflict with others. Just remember that you are so loved by the amazing Creator. He forgives you even when you make a mistake. Prayers go out to all that are reading this.

Love always,