The Comparison Game

Remember when you were 5 years old and you just did things like make a sandcastle or ride a bike, not because you had an audience looking at you, but just because you wanted to enjoy it? It was only 15 years since I was five. However, the world seems very different then it was back then. Today, I think people forget to just do things because they want to.

We tend to post a picture in order to get a bunch of likes or comments, instead of because we actually love that picture, or we loved the memory. People try to be friends with others only to increase their popularity ratings or following count, instead of because they really do like those people. Some people just want to be in the cool crowd and fit in because they want to make themselves look better, instead of them actually just being in it because they want to or because they love the people they are with. Some just date in order to make someone jealous or because they feel rushed into settling down instead of them actually just being like “wow I really love this person with my whole heart”.

I think today we are so caught up in entertaining our audience around us. We do things because we feel that those people around us need to know that we are “cool” or “popular” or “a good person” or “pretty”. But what if no one was watching? Would you send that text to that girl in tears? Would you share that picture of you helping at a food pantry?

See, we get so caught up in being OF the world, instead of just IN the world. I mean look at Jesus Christ. He had 12 disciples. He was the Messiah. God could have given Him a million friends, yet Jesus only had a few. He picked quality over quantity. When Jesus healed the sick and raised the dead. He didn’t tell the people to go tell everyone that Jesus Christ did this and He’s this amazing guy. Yet, the people did anyway, not because they had to, but because they wanted to praise this amazing person that saved them.

A man with leprosy came to him and begged him on his knees, “If you are willing, you can make me clean.” Jesus was indignant. He reached out his hand and touched the man. “I am willing,” he said. “Be clean!” Immediately the leprosy left him and he was cleansed. Jesus sent him away at once with a strong warning: “See that you don’t tell this to anyone. But go, show yourself to the priest and offer the sacrifices that Moses commanded for your cleansing, as a testimony to them.” – Mark 1:40-44

The only person we need to try to get approval of each day is God. He created this world for you and He wants you to enjoy it, not because you have to, but because you want to. He wants you to enjoy the little things and the big things that are all around you. He wants you to spend your days filling yourself up with Him instead of filling it up with the world and it’s approval. He doesn’t want you to play the comparison game.

He wants you to be still and grow with Him first before anyone else. So grow, explore. and strive to be your best self everyday with Jesus by your side.

Love always,

Claire

 

The Reality Behind The Screen

Social media really stinks sometimes. Our pictures that we post can make people believe that everything is perfect (aka we’re living our best life), which is kind of what we want them to do. We don’t want others knowing the pain we are going through. We want to hide it all underneath and pretend that everything is fine.

My Instagram could show you a lot of things. It shows you that I’ve been on a few trips in the past few months, been with friends and family, and have an obsession with photography (LOL). But it doesn’t show you everything. It doesn’t show you the stressful, late nights spent cramming for tests. It doesn’t show you how tired I am, and how I want to just sleep all day. It doesn’t show you how insecure I am about certain things. It doesn’t show you the times I have cried over being hurt. It doesn’t show you everything.

But one thing, I do really love about social media is that it gives you the chance to be vulnerable and to be real. It allows you to relate with others on so many different topics, whether that’s dogs, coffee, or Jesus. It’s a way to connect and love on others all over the world. It’s a chance to spread God’s word and love globally.

So I want to challenge you (and myself) to be real, whether that’s on a phone, behind a computer screen, or just in your daily life. Show the love of Jesus to others and meet them where they are. It’s a little thing that makes a big difference.

Love always,

Claire

 

Think Eternal, Not Earthly

I feel like most of the time, we get so caught up in society. We get attached to social media, school, money, what people think, how we look, etc. We end up stressed so easily, and at the end of the day, we feel weak. We spend so much time focused on all the earthly things of this world, but we forget to pay attention to the Heavenly things that Jesus wants us to strive for. We spend all this time trying to strive for earthly desires, but it’s never enough for us, only Jesus is.

Therefore, since you have been raised with Christ, strive for things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. – Colossians 3:1-2

Lately, I get the feeling when I am in a group of friends, that I am always the one who is not glued to their phone. Honestly, I hate looking at my phone. I only get on it now for a few minutes, and it’s normally to respond to a text message. I am a people person, which means I want to sit down with you and talk, not text. However, most people now are glued to how many people liked their post or who’s laughing at something that put in a group chat.

Here’s the thing: Earthly things are great. Don’t get me wrong, I love watching youtube videos that stupid yet funny. I love going on social media. I love seeing celebrity drama every now and then. I love a lot of things this Earth offers. But Jesus doesn’t want us to be soaked up into all the worldly things.

Let’s change our view to eternal, not earthly!

It doesn’t matter what you made on that one test, or if that guy/girl likes you back. Jesus didn’t tell us to get 2,000 followers on Instagram. He didn’t say you have to go to college. He didn’t say that being a Christian is easy. Life is rough. We get stressed, frustrated, hurt, and the list goes on and on. The world we live in is messed up, so let’s fix it. Let’s change the social norm of be on your phone 24/7. Let’s change our addiction to social media to an addiction of Jesus.

Be wise in the way you act towards outsiders; make the most out of every opportunity. Let your conversations be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. – Colossians 4:5-6

In the end, all that matters is how you loved others, how you served God, and your relationship with Our Savior. God has your life planned for you. Your life is in His hands. He loves you and wants the best for you. He isn’t going to let it all fall apart. Trust Him and don’t stress yourself about the worldly things.

Love always,

Claire

A Message From My Heart

I remember when I was a little kid that summer was the best time of the year. School was out. Everything was exciting and new. You got to hangout with all your friends, all the time and do fun things. It was the best time to be a kid.

Freshman year was an amazing start to college for me. I met some of the most incredible people that have become my really great friends, and I loved just the whole college experience (minus the school work). I remember about a month before my first year was over, I was so excited for summer. I was ready to be done and go home and see all my old friends, and I was just super super excited.

The first few weeks of my summer were so much fun. I got to see a lot of old friends and reconnect with them. I went on some cools trips and had fun. I was just really enjoying that “summer vibe”. Now it’s June 5th, and I’ve just had a lot of things on my heart that I wanted to share that maybe other people have been in this situation or currently going through it right now.

In college, I had a lot of friends that I would see very often throughout the week, but most of those people don’t live near me. A lot of them live in different states like Tennessee, Alabama, Georgia, etc. And yes, I have great friends that live here with me, but I have just felt very lonely lately. A lot of my friends and other people I know are going on trips, helping with camps this summer, and working at jobs a lot. I have seen all this on social media, and I feel like I am living a boring life compared to others.

Now don’t get me wrong, social media is great. I love posting cute pictures, connecting with others, and seeing what is going on in other people’s lives. However, social media isn’t reality all the time, and sometimes it is very annoying.

Social media is just the best part of people’s lives. You don’t see people posting pictures or talking about when they are sad, going through a tough time, etc. When people are sad, lonely, or stressed, they spend money on all these earthly things to make their lives look great, and they push their feelings down to where no one can see what is going on in their life because they don’t want people to know. You don’t want your social media accounts to be sad and upsetting. You want them to be upbeat and fun.

I just wanted to leave you with a few reminders to keep in mind if you are feeling in a rut lately. Everyone feels lonely at times. Not everyday is perfect. People that seem happy all the time are not always happy. Social media isn’t always reality. If you are in this lonely transition period right now, you are in it for a reason. God is going to work in you and help you grow with Him.

Love always,

Claire

The Truth About Body Image

Summer is here. You know what that means? It’s swimsuit season (aka go to the gym every day season). I have always enjoyed swimming, but as I grew up, I began feeling so insecure about my body, especially during the summer. It really wasn’t my body that made me not enjoy swimming, anymore, but the looks that other girls gave me. (You know what I’m talking about. We’ve all given that “Oh she looks like that?!?” look to another girl before and it wasn’t a good look) And that “look” makes us think that we need to fix ourselves because we get insecure about our bodies.

Now every girl on the planet is insecure about one thing or another, and most of the time, it is the way our bodies look. We work out or try to diet to lose weight in order to look better. We use different skin care products to clear up the bumps on us. We put a bunch of makeup on to go outside so no one will look at the mess underneath. We always want to make ourselves look better to impress others or just to feel good. But here is the truth:

You are never going to be 100% happy with the way you look.

Now some of you might be thinking, “Oh, I love the way I look, there isn’t one thing I would change.” If that is you, then you have proven me wrong. But for the rest of you, let me tell you a little story.

A few years ago, I finally got to be 5’11” and I honestly hated it. I thought “Now it’s harder for me to find a guy taller than me” and “Why am I so tall, all of my other friends aren’t this tall.” (The rest of my friends were around 5’5″) I was always bothered by height because I was the “tall friend”.

Here is the reason why I am telling you this. We can try and try to fix things about our bodies, our skin, our weight, etc. but somethings just can’t be changed. I can’t change my height, naturally. Yes, I can put on high heels, but I am still going to be 5’11” without the shoes on. I can wear contacts to make my eyes a different color, but once remove my contacts, they will still be blue. God made us that way for a reason. He didn’t want you to look like the girl next to you. He wanted you to look like YOU.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —- His good, pleasing, and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2

When we as women put a label on another person, it sticks with them, and it makes them feel bad and insecure about it. We need to realize that we live in a world where this happens a lot, and it shouldn’t. Instead of judging others and giving them “the look”, we need to be lifting them up and embracing it. Not every girl is going to look the same, and no one should try to look like anyone else.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” – 1 Peter 3: 3-4

God made you, YOU. Not the girl next to you. Don’t feel like you have to impress anyone because God loves you just the way you are, and Godly people should too. Satan tries to tempt us into thinking that we aren’t good enough, but he is wrong. God loves us and has already proven that to us. As Christian women, that is change we need to bring to the world. We need lift others up about their insecurities. We need to teach our kids that they don’t need to worry about not being skinny enough, or not being pretty enough because in the end, none of it matters. All that matters is the love that the Lord gives us and give it to the world.

“The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7

I hope that this swimsuit season, you feel beautiful and know that God thinks you are too. Don’t worry about what anyone thinks or says because you are YOU. Embrace it.

Love Always,

Claire

Don’t please others, please God.

I feel like in today’s society, we get so caught up in the little things that really shouldn’t matter. We try so hard to be better than others. We want to be the best person out there and want others to love us so badly. But honestly, it shouldn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter if we have thousands of followers on Instagram or one follower. It shouldn’t matter if we get 500 likes on a picture or 10. It shouldn’t matter if that girl/guy is more popular than you. None of that should matter because the only person that we should be trying to please is Jesus. Nobody else.

If God is for us, who can be against us?  – Romans 8:31

Social media has made it really bad to where we feel like we aren’t good enough. We feel like we aren’t worthy of that girl/guy liking our picture. We aren’t worthy of someone commenting on our photo. When in the end, it’s all for show. It’s something that is there to entertain, but sometimes it makes us feel like we aren’t good enough.

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God. Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a server of Christ.                         -Galatians 1:10

All of the social media stuff that we get caught up in doesn’t matter to God. Now, I’m not saying we shouldn’t post things on the Internet or want to be on social media. That is not what I am implying. I’m just saying that we shouldn’t obsess about it and let it control our lives. It isn’t that important. We don’t need to get too worked up about things on this Earth like social media and society’s viewpoint because to God it doesn’t matter. He loves you, indefinitely. He isn’t going to throw you away based on how many likes you get on a picture or how you look 24/7. He wants you to live for His view of you, not others.

But now, this is what the Lord says- he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”- Isaiah 43:1-2

So whenever you feel like you aren’t good enough for society or someone on this Earth just remember that you are enough for the Lord and that is all you need. Let your will to please God outweigh your will to please the world.