A Message From My Heart

I remember when I was a little kid that summer was the best time of the year. School was out. Everything was exciting and new. You got to hangout with all your friends, all the time and do fun things. It was the best time to be a kid.

Freshman year was an amazing start to college for me. I met some of the most incredible people that have become my really great friends, and I loved just the whole college experience (minus the school work). I remember about a month before my first year was over, I was so excited for summer. I was ready to be done and go home and see all my old friends, and I was just super super excited.

The first few weeks of my summer were so much fun. I got to see a lot of old friends and reconnect with them. I went on some cools trips and had fun. I was just really enjoying that “summer vibe”. Now it’s June 5th, and I’ve just had a lot of things on my heart that I wanted to share that maybe other people have been in this situation or currently going through it right now.

In college, I had a lot of friends that I would see very often throughout the week, but most of those people don’t live near me. A lot of them live in different states like Tennessee, Alabama, Georgia, etc. And yes, I have great friends that live here with me, but I have just felt very lonely lately. A lot of my friends and other people I know are going on trips, helping with camps this summer, and working at jobs a lot. I have seen all this on social media, and I feel like I am living a boring life compared to others.

Now don’t get me wrong, social media is great. I love posting cute pictures, connecting with others, and seeing what is going on in other people’s lives. However, social media isn’t reality all the time, and sometimes it is very annoying.

Social media is just the best part of people’s lives. You don’t see people posting pictures or talking about when they are sad, going through a tough time, etc. When people are sad, lonely, or stressed, they spend money on all these earthly things to make their lives look great, and they push their feelings down to where no one can see what is going on in their life because they don’t want people to know. You don’t want your social media accounts to be sad and upsetting. You want them to be upbeat and fun.

I just wanted to leave you with a few reminders to keep in mind if you are feeling in a rut lately. Everyone feels lonely at times. Not everyday is perfect. People that seem happy all the time are not always happy. Social media isn’t always reality. If you are in this lonely transition period right now, you are in it for a reason. God is going to work in you and help you grow with Him.

Love always,

Claire

The Truth About Body Image

Summer is here. You know what that means? It’s swimsuit season (aka go to the gym every day season). I have always enjoyed swimming, but as I grew up, I began feeling so insecure about my body, especially during the summer. It really wasn’t my body that made me not enjoy swimming, anymore, but the looks that other girls gave me. (You know what I’m talking about. We’ve all given that “Oh she looks like that?!?” look to another girl before and it wasn’t a good look) And that “look” makes us think that we need to fix ourselves because we get insecure about our bodies.

Now every girl on the planet is insecure about one thing or another, and most of the time, it is the way our bodies look. We work out or try to diet to lose weight in order to look better. We use different skin care products to clear up the bumps on us. We put a bunch of makeup on to go outside so no one will look at the mess underneath. We always want to make ourselves look better to impress others or just to feel good. But here is the truth:

You are never going to be 100% happy with the way you look.

Now some of you might be thinking, “Oh, I love the way I look, there isn’t one thing I would change.” If that is you, then you have proven me wrong. But for the rest of you, let me tell you a little story.

A few years ago, I finally got to be 5’11” and I honestly hated it. I thought “Now it’s harder for me to find a guy taller than me” and “Why am I so tall, all of my other friends aren’t this tall.” (The rest of my friends were around 5’5″) I was always bothered by height because I was the “tall friend”.

Here is the reason why I am telling you this. We can try and try to fix things about our bodies, our skin, our weight, etc. but somethings just can’t be changed. I can’t change my height, naturally. Yes, I can put on high heels, but I am still going to be 5’11” without the shoes on. I can wear contacts to make my eyes a different color, but once remove my contacts, they will still be blue. God made us that way for a reason. He didn’t want you to look like the girl next to you. He wanted you to look like YOU.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —- His good, pleasing, and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2

When we as women put a label on another person, it sticks with them, and it makes them feel bad and insecure about it. We need to realize that we live in a world where this happens a lot, and it shouldn’t. Instead of judging others and giving them “the look”, we need to be lifting them up and embracing it. Not every girl is going to look the same, and no one should try to look like anyone else.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” – 1 Peter 3: 3-4

God made you, YOU. Not the girl next to you. Don’t feel like you have to impress anyone because God loves you just the way you are, and Godly people should too. Satan tries to tempt us into thinking that we aren’t good enough, but he is wrong. God loves us and has already proven that to us. As Christian women, that is change we need to bring to the world. We need lift others up about their insecurities. We need to teach our kids that they don’t need to worry about not being skinny enough, or not being pretty enough because in the end, none of it matters. All that matters is the love that the Lord gives us and give it to the world.

“The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7

I hope that this swimsuit season, you feel beautiful and know that God thinks you are too. Don’t worry about what anyone thinks or says because you are YOU. Embrace it.

Love Always,

Claire

Build Your Community

Recently, I went to Ole Miss to see this wonderful lady, Jordan Lee, speak about topics that we all struggle with and the stains that we are hiding underneath the surface. We were in room filled with at least 75 girls that were from all over the place: Alabama, Texas, Mississippi State, Ole Miss, and even more. Jordan went around the room and asked people to share their struggles or things they were facing in their life. It completely blew my mind because there were so many people in that one room struggling with the same things as other girls. Like one girl was from Texas and was struggling with the exact same circumstance as another girl from Alabama and they didn’t even know each other. We all struggle with the same things and having relationships to help one another is what community is all about.

Community is having conversations with one another, checking on each other, and making each other feel loved. Community is not just your church or your town, but it is the people in those places that make up your life and become your friends. God wants us to be involved in a community where we not only feel love, but we also show God’s love to others.

Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved. – Acts 2:43-47

I know that it is hard to open up to people and talk about the struggles in your life. College has truly taught me that. However, you opening up about your struggles can truly impact someone else who may be going through that same situation, like that girl from Alabama. God puts people in our life like that for a reason. He wants us to pray for each other. He wants us to talk to each other and learn from one another. He wants all of us to have a community where we don’t feel like an outcast and can learn more about Him.

For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. – Romans 12:4-5

God wants us to be united in our communities as well. Unity means “one”, but it doesn’t take just one person to have unity; it takes a community to come together and be united as a whole. We all belong to the one body of Christ. That is how we are united. Don’t feel like you have to be the big hero to unite people. You don’t have to do big things to do things for the Lord. You can do things right on your college campus or in your community by sharing the Word and your story. Whether it is starting a bible study with friends or having a fellowship at lunch, you can build your community right where you are.

They all joined together constantly in prayer, along with the women and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brothers. – Acts 1:14

Whatever God has called you to do in your community, find a way to make it happen and build relationships with the ones around you. Lean on one another. Be united with others. Love each other. Start that fire that God wants you to set wherever you are.

Love always,

Claire

Also, I wanted to share the link to Jordan Lee’s blog. Y’all should go check it out!!! http://blog.thesoulscripts.com